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hey y'all! as some of you might know I'm moving for the first time in my life soon™️ but in the meantime I'm doing some roomie interviews/chats (which I've also never done before)

what are some questions I should be asking during these calls? are there any pieces of advice you have for me?

I'm v nervous about this so anything helps, even if it seems incredibly obvious

thanks!!!!

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@bees asking about people’s daily routines, pet peeves, things they’ve liked about roommates in the past, how much they like to socialize vs just do your own thing, how clean they are, what the neighborhood is like. what the noise levels are like. how much each persons portions of the bills usually cost

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@bees oh also whether they plan on continuing to live there (the worst is when people get you in and then leave and you have to replace them all by yourself)

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@bees if the person makes you feel uncomfortable, even if you don't really know why, absolutely decline them.

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@bees some basic stuff off the top of my head:
if they need any accommodations/they have any hard rules they need set
if they wanna combine food budgets
if they care about smoking

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@bees one piece of advice is to keep in mind that even if you and a potential roommate hit it off and it seems like a perfect match, once you live together a while you'll almost definitely do things that bother each other and the key to maintaining the roomie relationship is knowing what's a hard boundary for you and when it's not that big of a deal and to let it go. like, everyone has habits that other people probably won't like

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@bees if you can cook together, get groceries together, if they need the kitchen or bathroom or whatever during certain times of the day, setting up a cleaning schedule, setting boundaries on the noise levels & if the noise levels can be ignored with permission or on certain days, etc

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@bees if you get to a place you like, (I have little experience with roomies so I hope this helps)

Check the shower and see that it's a comfortable fit for you, water wise
Check where outlets are
Check what public transit routes go by even though it may be a while before you can use them.
Trust your gut

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@bees Adapted from a job interview question I like to ask: “What’s the most important trait for someone to have to be an ideal roommate for you?” Then follow up with “what’s the most disastrous trait?” This helps you self-select your own compatibility with them, but will also tell you a lot about them and their values.

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@bees I always ask about their cleanliness levels, noise levels, when they go to bed and get up, if they want to have a super social house or a chill one
Talking about splitting up chores and responsibilities is important

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@Cyborgneticz @bees this would be my advice, too.

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@bees You definitely want someone with a compatible level of mess tolerance- if you have very different ideas of how clean the place needs to be, it'll be a source of conflict.

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@bees Are they looking for a roommate who's a friend they hang out with, or a roommate who's just someone who lives at the same address?

What chores do they figure are everyone-does-for-themselves and what are ones where someone-does-for-the-whole-apartment?

How loud/energetic/active are they, and at what times of day?

How do they take it when someone asks them to knock it off? How shy are they about saying when they need something knocked off?

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@bees Oh, and should say, you have to ask yourself these questions. Try to room with people who have similar expectations of what they're looking for.

It doesn't have to be a perfect match (nothing ever is), but it can't be stable if people are looking for very different things from roommates. It's really important you have compatible ways of handling it when you're annoyed by something the other's doing, though.

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